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Why I Plan to Stay Single When I Get Married...

Definition of single: individual; distinct

One of my all time favorite biblical teachers is the late Dr. Myles Munroe. I think I've watched every clip he's got on YouTube at least once and some of them more than that. One thing I can say about him is that he knew how to break down the Word. I'm one that doesn't do well reading the Bible with all of the thou's and thee's. I'll read something two or three times and still not understand what I've read. And when it comes to doing a task I like to do it to the best of my ability. Especially when it comes to my spiritual growth. Anyway, when I watched one of his sermons on singleness (I added it below my post for you too :) ) he broke down the basics of a relationship, he said it starts with two single people--meaning that you must be whole BY YOURSELF. Think of your sense of fulfillment in life as a cup of water. You can't depend on another human to fill your cup. It's gotta already be full. If it's not already full, you know what you're gonna do? You're gonna expect for your mate to pour into you so they can fill you up. If they are full you are a leech. You're depleting them and now they aren't full. And if they aren't full either and you take from them--guess what!? You're both going to be pouring from each other to fill your own cups up. Well, when you're on a mission to fill your cup and they are on a mission to fill theirs, neither of you have time or the resources to help each other get full because you can't give what you don't have. And I don't know about you, but when I get married we will be on the same team I don't have time to be competing with my mate to see who can come on top. I want my cup to be full so that what I bring and what my mate brings to the relationship will be bonuses ADDED to our ALREADY full cups. When you depend on that other person to bring your happiness to you, then that's when arguments start about why he has to have guy time and why you need to go out with your girls. We all need time and space to be ourselves. So if you or your mate aren't whole "single" people before you meet then you can't become whole inside of your relationship. You are signing up for disaster. How do you become a complete "single"? You focus on making yourself the person you would want your dream guy to marry. Just like you have a list of what he should be like, please know that a good man is out their waiting for his dream woman. Determine what your skill or craft is and develop that. Study biblical relationships and principles. Know your role as a woman in the home. (And yes, you have to submit. :) I know that's a hard one.) Then, answer these questions. Would you like to deal with your attitude? Insecurities? Habits? If not, then why would your DREAM guy? If you have the desire to be married one day, and you seek God, He will give you the desires of your heart. But the question is...are you "single" enough to be married?

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